Are you happy with your social media habits? If you know it’s time to get rid of some of your bad habits, here’s a helpful list of 5 social media habits to get rid of to grow your business and improve your life.
Habit 1: Judging other people
There is this saying that when you point a finger at someone, there are three fingers that are pointing back at you.
Obesrve the things that trigger you. No matter if that’s a specific person or something that they said or posted, it usually reflects something that you’re not very happy with in your own life.
So whether that is how people spend their money, their relationship status, their holidays, body and so on, it’s just an indicator of an area of your life that you perhaps may not be 100% satisfied with.
Ask yourself: what makes something that they’re posting, saying or doing actually triggering for you?
I’m not preaching from a high horse here. About a year ago, I was very unhappy with where I was in my own life – doing a PhD I didn’t enjoy, and being pretty much stuck in a cubicle for years to come.
Whenever I opened social media and I saw girls on Instagram being on a beach, or working from home I felt very judgmental about their way of life.
However, once I decided to actually flip the switch from Look at these people to What it is that they have that I want to get for myself, it completely changed my mindset.
The first step to actually getting more of what you want in your life is to be aware of what it is that you want!
P.S. If you’ve done the inner work of knowing what you want, and you still find someone triggering: it’s ok to mute or unfollow them. Protect your energy!
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Habit 2: Checking your social media first thing in the morning
I know this is quite an easy habit to develop, especially if you use your phone as your alarm clock. However, it is one that it’s actually quite bad for your motivation, but also for your self esteem.
Every time you check your social media before you get out of bed, it’s like letting a group of strangers walk into your home without you even being dressed for the day. You wouldn’t like some people to put their agendas on you in your own home, right? Then why are you letting them do that via social media?
Checking social media first thing in the morning also affects your motivation levels. Serotonin is responsible for figuring out where we stand in the social hierarchy. So what do you get when you start comparing your life with someone else’s curated perfect life? Low serotonin = low motivation and happiness.
Read more about how serotonin affects your business here
Habit 3: Buying fake Instagram ‘vanity’ metrics
In the past, fake metrics used to be likes, comments and views. However, we now see a completely new way for bots and automation to engage with Instagram.
Now there are bots that you can pay to watch stories of other people instead of you. This is through what’s called mass story watching or mass looking. I did a whole video about the random people that are supposedly watching your content. Learn more abut it right here.
An important thing to note is that if you’ve ever paid for any sort of illegal automation, you’re basically risking not only getting banned from Instagram, but also losing your reputation as a service provider, leader and content creator.
I have personally unfollowed dozens of people big and small influencers who are real people practicing mass story watching. They’re not ‘fake’, but they’ve been spamming my Instagram Stories by replying to my polls and posting absolutely meaningless responses to my questions in Instagram stories.
Not only is this a very ingenuine way to engage with people on Instagram, but it also holds some risk of someone reporting your account as spam. I recently did that, and Instagram actually sent me a notification that they have removed this person because of their spammy behavior.
So if you’re buying any sort of fake metrics, now is the best time to stop because Instagram is catching up with all of this ingenuine activity. And once you get your profile banned, or people start disrespecting you because you’re buying followers or likes or views, then there is literally no way to recover your reputation.
Habit 4: Posting and ghosting
This is something that I have been personally guilty of, especially in the past.
One thing you need to ask yourself is why you’re actually posting this piece of content. If the answer is just to be consistent, or just because you think should, this is actually a good enough reason to not post it.
However, if you want to post something because you genuinely want to share your brand’s message or you want to inspire people, then make sure you’re giving it a proper chance to be seen.
Now, I can’t tell you what is the best time to post for your own profile. However, if you look through your own Instagram insights, you can see what the best days to post are, and also the best times to post within each day.
Besides that, it is really important to make the time before you post and after you post count, because Instagram does measure how much engagement your post gets within the first 30 minutes after you post it.
So if you’re sharing your content while you are hiking, or you’re in the middle of your dinner, then guess what: you’re not actually going to be able to engage with a lot of people and as a result, you may not get as much engagement on your post.
What I do recommend is taking 15 minutes before and 15 minutes after to engage with the people that are currently active on it (I usually check the stories to see who’s posted recently).
After you post, you can go through some hashtags that you used in your own post and go through the recent posts, because you know that those creators literally just posted a piece of content and they’re much more likely to engage with you.
Habit 5: Spending more time on social media than with real people
Now, I totally understand that if you’re an introvert like me, social media can be the perfect place to actually hang out because you don’t have to interact with anyone unless you really want to, and you can just watch what other people are doing.
However, spending too much time on social media can seriously influence what you perceive as normal and what you perceive as something that you want to do yourself.
Let me give you a personal example. I actually started out as a fashion blogger. I was spending so much time being surrounded by other fashion bloggers and consuming their content. Because of that, I started desiring things like designer handbags, shoes, a lot of new clothes and generally not wanting to repeat my outfits.
This may have been ok for someone whose job is in fashion. I, on the other hand, was an engineering PhD student. Despite that, I had a closet the size of an influencer. As you can imagine. I couldn’t really keep up and I was constantly broke and still feeling inadequate because I did not have all of those super trendy designer items.
However, if I had taken the time to actually spend more time with my real life friends who had very normal closets, I would have realized that having 400 items is actually not only not normal, but it’s actually quite excessive.
That is why if you spend more time on social media, you may start pursuing something that is excessive, or not meant for you.
So if you want to avoid falling into the anxiety and even depression trap that social media comparison can lead you to, it’s important to have designated social media time.
Have you fallen into any of these social media traps? Let me know below!